Should Teachers Be Friends With Their Students on Social Media?
Teenagers use social media apps like Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat
and Whatsapp to chat with their friends and peers. But should they be able to
chat with their teachers? An increasing number of students are friending their
teachers on social media, but is it inappropriate? Should the relationship
between teachers and students be kept strictly to classrooms? What do you think
Posted by on 18 Feb 2019
The teacher and student relationship has to be just for educational purpose
only, not outside of the school or school hours.
I believe students and teacher's relationship be kept strictly to the 9:00am -
3:00pm educational structure. If teacher's and students need to talk at all
about anything, it should only be done within the educational study hours, as
stated above. Teacher's are only there to educate children, that's it, nothing
NEVER - A teacher is a TEACHER not your child's friend/mate. Also I believe it
is wrong that some teachers let their students call them by their first name.
The lines of Teacher v's Student are so blurred these days and this is why we
have so much problems within our schools and why most students have problems
when they get their first job.
No. Im an adult & I dont befriend work colleagues on socisl media as employers
then have access to your personal life & Ive seen it used against the employee.
Why would an adult teacher need to be friends with their students? Totally
It's not just about the teacher. It means the teacher's friends and colleagues
comments can be seen and the have not given permission. Unfortunately some
teachers and some students post inappropriate comments. Better safe than
Teachers and students should be sharing a strong bond inside the classroom and
not on social media.Social media can only be used by a student if he or she
really needs urgent help out of the classroom.
I am a teacher and have had many students request to follow or to be a
‘friend’ on social media. My response is always to decline. I have always
explained why but then told them there are always ways to contact me outside of
school hours, if necessary, through email or our class blog, etc.
I find it a bit awkward and there definitely needs to be professional
boundaries. Plus, not only do I not want to see that my 10 year old student has
a better social life than I do, but I don’t want them to see mine *writing
this after waking up from an afternoon nap on a Saturday*
However, if it were to happen, I think it would be completely innocent but
it’s safest to stay away from it!
My first response was a definitive no, but that's because thats the way the
world is heading...
Would it/could it be potentially healthy for a young student to chat with
someone outside of their peer group- who is already screened and deemed safe...
I think it could be. I see a lot of peer to peer interactions and I see how much
people struggle outside of that.
Would it/could it be potentially healthy to have a mentoring relationship
between a teacher and students... again I would have to say, I think it would
But with how the world currently interact, with the way people are in today.. I
have to say no!
I don't think it is appropriate especially with the older students .it is quite
a hard question really .I suppose it is up to the individual ,what are there
motives for being in contact with the student , school work ,well school
finishes at 3 pm doesn't it ?
I was "old school" when it came to teachers & always kept them strictly
professional until my kids went to a private school where the teachers took a
lot of interest in their students. By knowing their home life & dreams for the
future they found that students did better by having a teacher/student
relationship that was more than just a classroom one.
Their teachers were able to detect when there were issues at home & at school
that affect student performance. In high school especially having that
connection to their teachers the students felt able to approach a teacher to
discuss something or to get advice.
At the end of the day my kids did far better academically because of those
teachers & are now achieving their dreams as adults, they still have contact
with those teachers & count them as good friends. If a teacher is able to form
that sort of friendship then it is so much better for the kids.
I would not call it a normal friendship & it is rarely seen outside of school
but if I had to do it over again I would still encourage the teachers to really
know them & count them as friends.
Teachers should be interested in what the students talk to them about but on a
Professional level only or boundaries would be easily crossed.
What if a teacher heard/read something that is unacceptable. Do they report it
or not? Risky consequences either way.
I think it should be kept strictly professional that way, everyone knows where
they stand with each other. There must be boundaries for both students as well
as teachers. Teachers are there to teach not become a best friend.
A teacher is employed to teach not act as a life style minder. George Orwell's
novel "1984" published in 1949 was a look into the future of things that were at
the time inconceivable by the average person. Now that age has arrived "BIG
BROTHER IS CONTINUALLY WATCHING YOU" This includes teachers joining your FB
As a teacher of over 40 years we didn't have social media for most of that time
but my students always knew I was a phone call away in times of urgency and they
felt they could call me out any time, to settle a problem with parents, if they
were stranded and couldn't contact anyone else or for an inquiry about school
work. However when Social media arrived it was a definite no-no to talk or
discuss things where anyone and everyone could see. My phone was still available
for students and parents to discuss school or family matters. All other "one on
one" conversations were handled via email. Although many knew me by first name
through my community and other out of school activities, within school , even my
own grandsons called me by my proper title and surname. Now I am retired I
absolutely love Facebook as it keeps me in touch with so many past students and
many have 'found' me on Facebook. I love hearing of their careers, travels,
further studies and their own little families. We can use Messenger for private
matters and I am so proud when we have get-togethers, am invited to celebrations
or coffee mornings and being the only teacher invited to several student
reunions. I am also regarded as a surrogate "Nanna' to some of their children.
I agree no social media contact but honestly !! You think teachers should only
teach? For many students today with so many parents too busy, to uncaring or too
unaware to help youngsters with their problems, to spend time just talking and
laughing, to show them that somebody is there for them when they are hurting is
what most teachers also do. Ask yourself why teachers are taking sport, learn to
swim, drama, music, driving, sex education, gardening, dangers of drugs and
even driving for Heavens' sake. They have to be a counsellor for problems,
adviser, relationship coach, be an intermediary often in family conflicts and do
all this beyond the basic subject class time they are paid for, because parents
no longer want that responsibility or won't put in the time. Most now just hand
their child an Ipad or mobile phone to keep them out of their hair. Teachers do
all this surrogate parenting usually outside of the classroom 'teaching' time
and for which they often are not paid. If teachers don't do it - who else would
care? I was a teacher for over 40 years and no teacher I even met just 'taught".
I agree that friendships can develop one the teacher has retired and the
students have grown up. Depends on which age group you were teaching. I am also
a retired teacher, mostly of younger children. I was invited to many birthday
parties but didn't go. Then I was invited to a 21st! That grabbed my attention
and since then I have contacted by many others, but I keep it strictly
conversational, nothing too personal.
No, teachers should not be friends with students. Teachers have a position of
authority which immediately divides them from their charges. When I went to
school our teachers were God like and very mystical so we knew nothing about
them, but when my children went to school they knew the teachers . Christian
names, whether or not they were married, living together or had children. I
didn't then nor do I now think it was right. If the teachers were doing so much
talking about themselves when did they have time to teach? Perhaps that is why
there are so many poorly educated people around these days with such narrow
ideas and thoughts. If you don't see or hear it on Facebook or Twitter it isn't
true. People seem very ready to believe almost anything and have little to no
regard for the truth. It does seem to me that people should be better educated
now seeing that they spend more time at school than we did, but sadly that isn't
Parents today are generally too busy, too unaware of the needs of their
children, dare I say in some cases, too uncaring. Teachers are now expected to
do so many things which really are the role of parents and that is why there is
less and less time for teaching the basics. How many children do you now see
head down playing with iPad or mobile phone instead of chatting with parents or
working or reading together? This is the problem - parenting not the teacher. I
agree Social Media is not the place but for so many youngsters, the teacher is
the only person they can regard as a caring friend.
Had u asked me this question ten years ago I would have said.. ABSOLUTELY Not as
this could result in any number Of cracks to start forming within the school
system.... such as personal feelings getting in the way leading to other
students missing out on there teachers potential to operate at 0 for all
students, ... therefore I stand my ground on this one to this day ........no
it's not appropriate
In general, absolutely not a 'friend on social media. It would be too easy to be
misunderstood in some conversations. Teachers are 'teachers', not 'best
There are many students to whom you become quite close to but as a teacher, you
must not cross the line. Friends can be close but on social media, there are too
many unknowns. too many people have access to your thoughts, if they try to be
disruptive or even destructive. The written word is easy to manipulate with
meaning, in my view.
Teachers have alot to deal with at school, i think thats where the relationship
should stay in the classroom. theres too much negative attitudes towards
teachers & it may send the sudent the wrong message..
Teachers and students cannot be friends ..students can expect special favours
and teachers can open themselves up to many .problems . ..there are so many
lines to cross and teachers will always come out the loser ..
does not sound healthy .special one to one not only for the student an teacher
.that could be assured of bad behavior . If they need help should be done after
school at school in a group .apart from sports
When I was a pupil I played football with and against my teachers. We also
attended the same social gatherings.
People today have too many sinister thoughts about pupil/teacher contacts, hence
the extremely low numbers of male teachers in the system today.
Male teachers in my day were in greater numbers than female teachers and a lot
of my male friends looked up to these same male teachers as mentors.
Definitely NOT , teachers should stay in the class room & not have personal
encounters of any kind with their students . This connection with a student or
students may leave the teacher wide open to unwarranted behaviour , or even
untruthful accusations if the friendship goes " Pear Shaped. " Don't let it
, and after a falling out
It really depends on the reason the teacher and student mutually want to enhance
their relationship online. If it is for productive purposes, such as sharing
work for feedback from the teacher, then it is a great idea. If it becomes,
however, a strange way for the two to maintain knowledge of the other's personal
life, that doesn't sit well with me.
No they should not be. They are their teachers. A line has to be drawn between
being a teacher and a friend. The unfortunate part about this is that some
teenagers do not have the help around them that is needed.
Depending on the situation it could be ok my wife is a teacher and is fb friends
with many of her old students from Cambodia but that said I firmly believe that
a child should build a closer bond to the parents then to teacher so well I’m
ok with them being friends on fb I’m also for keeping children off of fb till
after high school and spending time with them whenever you can less tv more
kicking a ball around or tea party’s with dolls
No the simple fact is it should be kept at school and in the classroom and I
don't think that teachers and students should be in contact outside of school or
on social media to me it just seems wrong and a bit weird and to think what kind
of ideas an older person or a teacher would have with a young student or person
I don't seem to think that is right
Definitely not. My stepdaughter and her best friend are connected on Social
Media with Teachers and one school Chaplain. We recently found out they have
joined a "Christian Church" Which worries me terribly because my stepdaughter
has cut ties with her father totally, out of the blue and we cannot contact her
or know for sure where she lives. She refuses to having anything to do with us
and she isn't quite 18.
absolutely not. Teachers need to turn off from “school” as do the students.
It also opens up a whole lot of grey areas around privacy for teacher and
student. I know students can contact their teacher in some schools via an email
and receive homework etc through that as well. I think that’s enough.
I believe teacher and children should communicate in classroom, but on an
occasion at home on PC for homework and only to send completed work. There is a
time and place for education with teachers, not socially, I think it is getting
out of hand, confusing.
In my opinion teachers and students between them should only be keep in the
classroom , but if a teacher retires , teaches at another school ect or the
student either moves onto another school, ( e.g goes to high school, ) leaves
school or attends another school than they no longer have to have that student
Because I've become friends with teachers that taught me , I only became friends
with them after I finished my education