Raising kids without a specific gender in mind has been a movement gaining
momentum in the last decade or so. Essentially, instead of assigning female
things like pink clothes, dolls and make up to a little girl, parents allow
their kids to pick whatever colour and toys they connect with. Parents encourage
their kids to express themselves without enforcing gender stereotypes like boys
should be tough and girls should be polite. Do you think this is a good thing
LiveTribers? Should kids be raised in a gender-neutral environment?
Posted by on 04 Mar 2019
I thinks it sad that we have to force children to make a decision on something
they don't understand. Let kids be children for as long as they can, because we
are adults for most of our lives. Teach the children love and kindness and then
gender shouldn't ever be an issue. As a parent our influence over children
changes once they go to school, where politics and religion raise their ugly
heads. Neutral guidance is not teaching children about the right from wrong.
Kids should be raised neutral full stop. They should be taught how to be good
people and care for others and respect others beliefs. They should be allowed to
make up their own minds about gender/sexuality/religion whenever they are ready
and with neutral guidance.
Definite NO, I don't have a problem with any adult wanting to change their
gender but it causes too much confusion to a child, clearly they are going to
learn they have different body parts growing up and boys and girls can like the
same toys IE: cars and dolls played with by both
Absolutely not. Sorry but everyone is born a specific gender like it or not.
It's utterly ridiculous to bring a child up genderless! How would that do
anything but create widespread confusion and identity issues?
Definitely NO - how pathetic all of this rubbish truly is! If there's any DOUBT
about what gender you have, just check in your underpants - takes 5 seconds. We
were ALL created male or female - any perversion of that is perversion thought
of/caused/created by mere human beings who have no commonsense.
I dont think it really matters these days as long as the child/kids are safe
living with either parent shouldn't matter, we are all individuals girls be
girls n boy's be boy's n if there is that odd 1 that's ok because we are all
Why is it as a society we have this need to pigeonhole almost everything
including gender now. Be that we are either rigid, open-minded or somewhere in
between that it's all getting a little too much and confusing. At the end of the
day no matter what they are born as Female, Male, Hermaphrodite or Transgender
they are still just little people. Can we not just treat these incredible little
human beings as such. "Little People"
For all the people saying you are either born male or female sorry to burst your
bubble by science and chromosomes you have naturally born Males Females and
Hermaphrodites( born with both sex & reproductive organs) years ago up until the
late 70's early 80's the parents chose the sex of the hermaphrodite child often
getting it very wrong. Now thanks to research and science, when a baby is born
with both male/female reproductive organs they do an array of tests including
hormonal, chemical and a few others that I can't bring to mind at the moment. So
we are not all born just male or female.
I liked your post. I'm a veterinary nurse, and aware of animals with
reproductive organs that can be assigned to both genders. The vast majority of
us are either male or female .... then there are those that don't entirely fit
into any one slot ... and it's ok to be different ... that's the way God meant
it, and those of us in the majority, NEED to realise that those of us, who are
in the minority, are just as human as the rest of us ... this is how they where
made ... and they are equally as important as those of us in the majority.
AND, we all need to treat each other with respect and kindness, regardless of
what sex we are, or our sexual orientation!
Leave it up to the parents to bring their child up as they see fit, as long as
child is happy, healthy and has opportunities to express themselves and believe
in themselves. As a singe parent of only one child who is a boy I never told him
he had to behave a certain way or play with certain toys or wear certain
colour.I gave him every opportunity to explore different things including arts
and crafts, sewing, cooking, making things with wood, chopping wood, etc. It
does not take long for their natural identity to come out when they choose what
they like to play with, what colours they like and how they express themselves.
My son has never had a male figure in his life, we homeschooled so he did not
even have teachers and was not interested in sport despite me trying to
encourage him to try. But he is definitely a boy, loves wearing dark colours,
loves to build things, fix things and work out how things work, taught himself
the ins and outs of computers, but not interested in aggressive games or
competition of any sort, I could go on but what I am trying to say is let your
child choose, lets not be gender neutral and lets not tell them they have to
behave a certain way because of their gender or wear certain colours etc. Glad I
did not have a girl because I hate pink! The colour coding was put in place by
toy manufacturers and people have made it some kind of weird tradition since.
No. All this political gender correctness is becoming way out of control and
what it's mostly doing is creating these distorted images with children. It's
bad enough they are to deal with eating problems and self esteem issues in
trying to be someone they are not. I can't understand why these gender gender
issues are even considered. Its only creating more mental health problems for
This paragraph is a load of crap.. this is to whoever wrote it... Must be dumb,
ignorant and knows nothing about how Australian children have been bought up in
My daughter was born in 1967 and colours like everthing else was limited, but
we were not mentally insane, if you were born naturally with a vagina you were
a girl a penis meant a boy.
We didnt have time to think or make big issues out of FAKE GENDERS, the girls
and boys played together , got dirty together and we didnt have designated
ways of life, That may have been correct for the very small minority of rich
toorak toffy types. but not for ordinary normal people. that was my childhood.
we never ever considered sex, as we were too busy being kids.
My daughter was the same, though we lived in city and because I could craft she
never wore pink... I hated the colour, she was dressed in red, purple, black,
and many other colours that were available for adults..and again, girls wore
trousers if they wanted, boys knitted and did crafts and girl did woodwork, boy
also did cooking.
THE IDIOTS THAT ARE PROMOTING This gender stupidity, need to stop, it is
blatant abuse of children.. and should be called such..
when the child is old enough they can decdie. BUT to bring up children and
deliberately cut away at their confidence give them no absolutes, is a demonic,
feminist, mentally insane idea. and comes from the pit of hell..
go look at some of the sexless demonix statues you can find on the internet and
they are all over the world... want the kids to think they are related to these
demonic entities and not related to their own parents.
SICK< SICK< SICK,, and of course its coming from the minority idiot feminists,
and gender whatever,,,
Absolutely not. Realistically speaking they are either boys or girls. How they
express that in terms of roles around the house and colours they wear is up to
them. But fact is fact there are only 2 genders, boys and girls.
The above is not what gender neutral refers to. Gender neutral is refusing to
be assigned any gender and refusing to identify as a gender - stupid and
irresponsible, but as for children not being relegated to certain colours etc as
above, of course it's best and most parents do that anyway. The archaic old
fashioned ways mentioned above were forced out by the baby boomers years ago.
Many kids are raised in a gender neutral environment at home but labels are used
at school, health care etc. It never occured to me to raise my children as boys
and girls, I have tried to focus on broader roles in family, community, job
Personally I don't believe children should be raised gender neutral. The issue
for me is that it could have long term negative consequences. Gender should not
be seen as something that is dangerous or damaging to a child. Embracing the
differences in gender is incredibly important when forming part of a person's
identity. Kids should not be made to feel shame if they enjoy and feel
comfortable being the gender they were biologically born, but that is what a
minority is asking to happen.
It is also likely that transgender or gender fluid children may not be able to
identify this part of themselves until after puberty or well into adulthood
because they have never have not had any experience with gender, live as a
particular gender or look to society to see differences in gender. This could be
devastating and delaying a person to be able to find an identity with which they
feel most comfortable.
Forcing people to be gender neutral is just as ignorant and damaging, as forcing
someone to identify as a particular gender they are not comfortable in. Gender
exists. Instead of creating a society without celebrating differences in gender
by forcing everyone to be asexual, we should just be more accepting of those who
wish to choose their gender or those who wish to not be bound by gender.
As human beings, we seem to be unable to ever just add to our understanding,
while maintaining important parts of ourselves and society. We tend to
completely throw out everything we know and begin anew, without putting thorough
thought into the severe consequences of doing so.
Gender and proudly identifying with a particular part of it should not be
shameful just because it fits with their biology. Unfortunately, that is what is
happening and the psychological damage and confusion this will have upon
generations to follow, could be catastrophic.
What is the purpose of wanting all children to be brought up gender neutral? How
do people eventually make a choice if they have had no real experience with
either or can look to society to teach or show them definite gender differences?
What do we do with the possible generations who will suffer from psychological,
emotional, social and mental issues because they feel uncomfortable being gender
neutral and shamed/unaccepted for wanting to proudly identify with their
We just need to add to the options of gender identity and help all to celebrate
As for birth certificates... It may be an idea to record the gender for record
keeping purposes, for history or for when we realise we did more damage and have
to reverse the decision. At 18, people could be asked to officially identify
with a gender role as an adult and a new certificate could be issued to be used
for documentation and identification purposes.
Adults maybe need to stop dragging children into their own ideology and then use
as an experiment. They depend on us to protect, teach, guide and have their best
interest at heart. Instead, society is allowing the baggage of a few to decide
the upbringing and fate of all children to be sealed. These things should be
voted on and not simply changed without experts, research and consequences
No way. I hear birth certificates will no longer be stating "boy" or "girl".
Why do we always have to pander to the minority. They are in society, I have
nothing against them, but I don't need or want it shoved in my face.
I honestly don't know what is happening with this world. A penis is a penis and
a vagina is a vagina, how can you say to children " you are gender neutral".
I understand that some individuals are not meant to be the sexual orientation
that they are born with, but lets let children just be children. Isn't life
confusing enough already???
Facts are facts. Truth is truth. Science is science.
Except for a few special cases we are all have either XX chromosomes or XY
chromosomes - we are male or female. Trying to pretend anyone is someone he/she
is not is a lie, is wrong.
One of the beliefs behind the gender-neutral thing is that there is something
wrong with being female and/or there is something wrong with being male. These
are also lies. It is perfectly right and good to be male and it is perfectly
right and good to be female - if that is what you are.
Be true to yourself and raise your children to be true also.
Children should be raised as they were intended. That is as BOYs and GIRLs.
When they are old enough to work out that they want to be something different,
Ok, but do not force it on them.
I fear that in the future, from this generation onwards, we will have a people
populating this planet with heads permanently bent at a downwards angle of 45
degrees or greater, huge thumbs with the inability to speak intelligibly or
communicate with any one unless the have at their thumb tips a mobile phone or
Definitely NOT, we are born male or female its been this way since humans were
born we need to STOP labelling everything and just accept who a child is as a
child and whatever they are they are love them all the same but we need to stop
segregating humans the world has gone mad labelling everything bringing in new
words for humans, every human is human no matter what they feel they are LET
THEM BE WHO THEY ARE AND JUST SUPPORT THEM we are doing future generations no
good by putting labels on everyone it is just causing more segregation there is
enough pressure in this world without having more labels as adults they can then
choose what they wish to call themselves whether its opposite of what they were
born or not it is each INDIVIDUALS choice and they are FREE TO MAKE THIS CHOICE.
I was a tomboy doing all the boys things growing up but I have never seen myself
as a boy I think there are SOME PEOPLE who are confusing their children with all
of these titles I AM NOT saying that there are not children out there who know
at a very young age whether they feel they are boys or girls because there are
so I tread carefully as I DO NOT want people to be offended at what im saying, I
just think that we need to be very cautious of our influence on a small child
gosh when I grew up some of the boys liked to dress up in mummys clothes and
vice versa girls in daddys clothes that didn't mean we were confused about who
we were we were just being kids
We had three daughters in a neighbourhood dominated by boys. They spent more
time booting a footy or swinging a cricket bat than they did playing with dolls.
But they still did play with dolls. Give them space and let them roll - they
end up bright, well adjusted and pretty happy with their lot.
No. This is absolutely ridculous. Like BerryBear says its our DNA. And it is
definately a mind thing.
We need to be able to love the skin we're in whether we're white or black. We
can help how we are born. We can't help what gender, race, colour we are born
No. Our DNA classifies as one or the other by what chromosomes we have. What
we need to be telling our children in is that our confidence, happiness and
state of mind come from within. It's not dependent on weather we are female or
male. We can dress and choose who we want to be but don't confuse them about
the gender or sexuality as it has nothing in the end to do with what gender you
are. The problem stems from our beliefs from past generations that we are to be
one sort of way or another. It doesn't matter what sexual organs you have your
psyche follows you. I come from a family where we have rather more of one or
the other oestrageon or testosterone. So even though I am a female and am fine
with that I am not overly girly, love a lot of boy things and the same can be
said for my other siblings weather they are female or male we don'f fit the
overly girly or overly manly parameters. Only one of us is gay and its not the
girls. We are who we are and I love nothing better to see hot cars (whilst my
sons are not intersted), boxing and action movies. What ever our sexual
practices or bits and pieces are does not define us. What defines us in the end
are our interests, principals and ethics. Whilst I know a few transgender
people none of them are happy and one even told me they regretted it. To
experience truly what it is to be male or female you have to be born with those
chromosomes or otherwise you are pretending to be something you are not. A
transgender female will never know what it is like to go through female puberty,
have periods, emotional outbursts because of fluctuating hormones or what it is
like to give birth. So lets stop being so PC and realise that the world does
not evolve around our sexual organs or what clothes we wear.
No. Definitely. Raise them to be caring human beings, with respect for others,
whether those others are of the same or opposite gender, older, younger, richer,
poorer, or with different religious beliefs. Also, let them be children, and
enjoy that phase of their life without rushing them to grow up before their
Absolutely not. What are we becoming to even be having this ridiculous
discussion. It just applies to a minute number who want to make a big noise.
Just raise the kids to be decent humanbeings - have some manners, respect,
consideration for others, morals & other decent qualities.
No, I dont think they should be raised gender neutral. You are born with a part
for a reason but I feel it should be open for those old enough to understand the
complete change that comes with gender neutral. Children should be able to be
kids without the influence of the gender neutral pushing it. Leave Children
alone, to be Children. Check back when they are teens.
Raise children to be kind and to be gracious with others and difference. The
extreme views either way seem so pointless, no one wants to be forced to by
parents or others to express themselves in certain ways. Let them be themselves
and accept others for themselves.
So, if homosexuals say they were born as such, why do they always have one
partner masculine and one partner effeminate. Copying a heterosexual
relationship. The same with lesbians. One assumes masculine persona (as in Ellen
DeGeneres), and one remains feminine. So deep in their psych. They want to still
have a heterosexual relationship (want to be "normal").
I know of many gay couples, neither of whom 'copy' a heterosexual relationship
or who 'always have' a feminine or masculine...and I doubt you have many gay
friends if you are basing this view on Ellen...who has short hair and wears
jeans, but so do billions of straight women and no one says 'oh, they are
pretending to be masculine' . Being gay is not about being gender neutral.
Children should not be included or used as pawns in adult agendas.
Adults choosing to move away from traditional and Christian beliefs should leave
the children out of their decision making.
LGBTI is an adult choice.
What a stupid race of people we have become. There are so many problems with
the concept of gender neutral. It doesn't matter what you call yourself you are
either a male or female. Males do not suffer cervical cancer, nor do females
suffer prostate cancer. Our government bodies that look after such stats do
need to know how many males and females we have in order to order vaccines and
any other such treatments. What would happen if there were only androgynous
people out there restricting medical supplies and suddenly a person finds they
have a sex related complaint but no drugs or vaccines available. Use your
Do not be so stupid, there are two sexes Male & Female. I can imaging childs
question in the future, mummy couldn't you tell I am a girl /boy ?? What sort
of effect would that have on a small child when even the parents say they did
not know what sex they where ??? Madness to the max.
We are who we are regardless of our sex, and when we grow up, we will still be
the people we are meant to be, it matters not whether we are girlie girls, or
tomboys, or if we are blokey blokes, or people with a penis who are a little
gentler in their demeanor than typical "boys". I am 58yrs old. I had no
brothers. I grew up with toy trucks & barbie dolls .... I don't think my
parents encouraged me to me a particular gender, unless we went out .... then I
would have a dress put on me, before the age of 5. My grown up self, is an
old, female, still slightly athletic, heterosexual, tomboy, and I am who I am
without outside influence .... And I'm happy with who I am.
I had a female teacher at uni who taught feminism. She felt so strongly about
this issue. She then went to raise her child with an ambigious name that could
be either a boy or girls name. Also she didn't allow the child to wear pink or
blue. Also she didn't tell anybody what gender the child was. I think the child
would have had a lot of problems and issues in life as they didn't know whether
they were a boy or girl. The reason I bring this to everyone's attention is that
if gender neutrality is fully enforced. Small children will be very confused by
the teaching at primary school and parents will not be able to opt out of the
safe schools program (if children attend public schools). Some states have
rejected safe schools program (Queensland and Tasmania). It is not a program
about bullying at all but heavily promotes minority lifestyles such as
homosexuality, lesbianism, bi-sexuality and transgender and trans-sex as normal.
When we were kids, my sisters and I wore pink and blue at times. We would also
play with blocks, cars and dolls. It is normal for children to wear different
colours of clothes and play different types of toys. This type of thing does not
make you a boy or girl. A very smart parent would not let their child become
transgender until at least 18 as most children that have the operation before
this age, regret having the operation, as they were experiencing conflicting
hormones and were not old enough to properly decide on these things. Most times
they end up wanting to be the same sex that were born with (eg if they have a
penis, they they later want to be a boy/ man).
A person, whether as a child or an adult, will know themselves what "gender"
they will relate to.. If they are raised "Gender Neutral" may be totally
confused as to whether they are SUPPOSED" to be Male or Female, not fully
understanding what mum and dad want..a son or a daughter
Along as the children are happy.. it doesn't matter what they wear or what toys
they play with..every child has a personality and every one of them.are
different.. let them.express them selves or they may aswell be locked up in a
NO.....Who ever came up with this should be shot. You are born & you either
have a penis or a vagina, THIS is what makes you what you are, THIS is either
male or female, total bull dust any other thoughts
Why do you have to put a name to it? Kids are kids, always have been always
will be. I was a tomboy, grew up, got married, had my own kids. I played with
whatever I wanted to, so did my kids. So did most kids. I have never
personally known a parent who insisted their kids only played with toys suitable
for their gender. As long as the kids are happy playing, leave them alone.
When they grow up they will have time enough to decide on their own future.
What needs to be done, is parents, guardians and other adults in contact with
children, need to step back and stop being critical if a child wants to wear
something different from what that person expects, and to step back and listen
when a child asks and talks about things. Children are finding their feet, let
them ask, be there to guide them but DONT push your view on them, open the doors
and give them a full focus of all around them. In the end if you are open,
honest and let them choose with your love behind them, they are happier,
healthier, productive kids, let them be who they are, not what you push for
them, if given love, guidance and respect they achieve anything they want in
life, don’t over ride and deny them, as you create problems that can’t be
undone. Guidelines and explanations but at least give them a communication line,
that’s not stilted in only your views.
We don't need gender neutral environments. I think kids will gravitate toward
who they want to be regardless of what's 'thrown' as them (ideas of gender and
stereotypes). Just as someone else in the comments here said, some girls are
tomboys from the get-go and some boys become more feminine. I was a tom boy
growing up. But they didn't achieve that from a place of people preaching gender
neutralization to them.
Honestly, this whole fight for gender neutralization is only for the minority
and it creates more problems than solving them. I don't think minorities should
govern the majority. That is not fair for the rest of society/community. The
minority should simply come to terms with how they feel and live their lives the
way they want to, but not push it on the rest of the community.
I don't think it is necessary or a good idea that we as a society get so
sensitive about everything. We are born either a boy or a girl. The world is
becoming so sensitive and easily offended.
I personally think with all the freedom we have these days (freedom of speech,
action, choices etc.), some forget how good we have it, some take it for granted
and take it too far.
Well where do the next generations want to end up? girls doing hard labour and
boys doing the house work full time? So boys can wear the dress and girls can
ware board shorts? Um where is it heading ? So girls wear bugie smugglers and
the boys were bikinis lol ,I'm a male go for it . stupid that's all I can say
there will be a lot of confused kids and adults .try picking a Bible up and see
what it says lolol stupid??
Who in there right mind thinks its not confusing enough being a young child
growing up in this crazy world without saying to them hey mate ya not a boy or a
girl and ya can be either one NO NO I think what is more acceptable to do is let
them be them and if they turn out bi gay trans so on there your children you
should love them no matter but don't go putting ideas that weren't there in the
Kids usually pick what they want to play with. Some girls are tom boys and grow
up to be loving women, mothers or whatever.
I actually do not like the idea of compartmentalising people as male, female,
gender neutral, gay, transsexual, etc. You are born male or female and this is
what you are but you can live your life however you wish. I never dressed my
daughter often in pink nor my boys often in blue but I dressed them in colors
that suited them be it green, brown, purple white etc. As for politeness all
should be taught this no matter what gender and I think these days girls should
be taught to be a little bit tough as the world has become much more dangerous.
No to raising a child gender neutral.
NO! Hopefully boys are still boys and girls are still girls!!! If they want to
change identity - let them do it after they have experienced the real work. Plus
they need to associate with children their own age regardless of gender..
I believe in gender neutrality only from the point of view that most kids wish
to experiment with clothing or toys or such that is normally associated with the
opposite sex. I am almost 60 and my youngest brother, when he was around 3-4yrs
old liked putting my bras and bikinis on, my eldest boy favoured playing with
dolls for a while........both became interstate truck drivers and mad car
fanatics as well as good fathers. I myself was a big time tomboy who even today
feel more at home with the guys than with women (I am female), but am the proud
mother of 5 children and am a carer by trade. I DO however object to people
trying to say children should be brought up as gender neutral and can choose
what sex they associate with when they are older. Whether we like it or not
there is only 2 sexes.....Male or Female and we are all one or the other. How we
choose to live our lives can be influenced by how we are brought up but whether
a girl wants to live as a boy or vice versa is a choice we make, not something
that happen just because we put a bra on or plated with bows and arrows.
Yes. When I was growing up in a country town, ALL the kids were treated Gender
Neutral. We should not dictate one way or the other but watch and learn from
your children. It makes for a much more understanding and loving family.
Absolutely. I strongly believe that a gender neutral environment allows both
male and female to grow with positive self image. My grandson played with dolls.
He is now very protective of his younger sister.
My grandaughter love the outdoors. They love helping in the garden.
Children will no longer be chained to male/female gender specific roles.
Equality can finally be achieved.
A child, whether boy or girl should grow up feeling comfortable with themselves
and if that means going against the norms of society then so be it, if a parent
can’t accept their child for the person they want to grow up to be, are they
really a good parent? Parent or not, you should always encourage a child to be
themselves and to aspire to become whoever they want to be, so yes kids should
be raised in a gender-neutral environment because they should have the right to
discover themselves in their own way.
Raising your child doesn't mean you have to beat a stereotype into them - My
youngest son's favourite colour is pink and he plays with dolls and watches
Barbie movies more than his little sister who plays rugby. That's who they are
and I'm happy to let them be...
This must be a nightmare come Xmas time. I don't think all of this stuff should
be shoved down kids throats, which is happening in certain circumstances. It's
getting to the point where certain groups don't even want the parents to have a
say in how their kids are being raised. Very slippery slope. I've also seen
mothers and fathers disagreeing on this very issue with the thought of splitting
up due to it. The world is just insane these days imo. Everyone is caught up in
everyone else's business or expected to join these causes and special little
groups. This is what being an adult is supposed to be? REALLY? How utterly ugly
and disappointing human society can be. Bring on the down votes.
I think it is confusing for a child to have some idea that being a male or a
female means nothing. Your ideas of what to do with a kid I disagree with.
Giving girls makeup? what for? that should be left to adulthood, making them
wear pink? Does every girl have to wear pink? And put it on a boy and make them
look silly? Boys tough and only girls polite? These ideas are warped anyway.
Come on, wake up.
What about men acting masculine and mostly being physically stronger than the
female sex, helping women with their physical strength and knowledge of things
most women do not know about like mechanical things. And what about females
behaving feminine - gentle and soft when needed along with wisdom instead of
manipulative and cunning.
Politeness should be a quality that both men and women pursue.
How about being able to cook a decent meal and clean up after yourself and be
organised and productive - that should be taught to both sexes by parents.
And parents - they're supposed to be teaching their children how to become well
balanced adults - not nongs who don't know who they are or what they are
supposed to do in life.
Why are you so afraid of kids being given some direction in life? Some guidance
on manly things and feminine things from both parents is balanced, and as for
clothing - guidance is needed there or your children will be the laughing stock
at school and elsewhere.
An example is when I see people turn up to a wedding with less than casual
outfits on looking untidy - this is offensive to the ones being married.
Some rules and guidance please for children otherwise if you offered a kid
chocolates every day - they would eat it and become fat and sick - parents are
there to teach their children how to behave and not be a misery to themselves
A good woman is what a man is looking for in a partner and likewise a decent
self sufficient man for a woman. They aren't made by letting kids do what they
like and run amok.
they should be raised as what they were born as i think parents that let
their kids act out that they are the opposite sex need their head read kids are
far too young to say that they are not a boy or girl and that they want to be
the opposite sex i have seen shows from overseas about a boy who wanted to be a
girl and he was only 5 years old and the parents were letting him dress as a
girl act as a girl and be a girl in his own mind i think the parents are idiots
for letting their son do this as he is far too young to know what he wants to be
i think the parents want him to be a girl as they did not have a girl