Sexual Harassment. Let's Talk About It.


In light of the recent scandal of American film producer sexually harassing actresses such as Gwyneth Paltrow and Angelina Jolie, how do you think we as a society should handle sexual harassment? How can we encourage any victim of sexual harassment/abuse to speak up? Do you think this is an issue that needs to be fixed in our society? Let us know below.

Posted by on 11 Oct 2017

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    Eileen

    It is not always a clear cut situation. Of course blatant sexual harassment should never be tolerated when the victim whether male or female has never provoked, led on or sent out ambiguous signals. I have watched young girls provocatively dressed in what once would have been considered 'underwear', looking like 'hookers', flirting and even kissing men and not always under the influence of liquor. They do not always realise or know that their dress, behaviour, language may be taken as a 'come on' until it is too late. Do they decide it is sexual harassment if a man responds? Is it OK if they like the look of the guy? It is indeed a very fine line some of these girls tread. While I in no way condone rape, violence or sexual harassment in the workplace, home or wherever, young people should be taught the dangers of playing games, provocative dress and behaviour.

    Posted by Eileen on 17 Oct 2017

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    Tony

    The not so simple solution is that nobody should be in a private meeting without a witness/ video of what occurred. That way the perverts can’t lie and get away with it and also stops unfounded claims of harassment many years down the track . In a perfect world we all get along and there is no discrimination, harassment, abuse, wrongdoing or deceit. But we aren’t in a perfect world , so we need precautions against the wrongs of this world

    Posted by Tony on 16 Oct 2017

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    Granny leadfoot

    NO ONE EVER HAS THE RIGHT TO THIS SORT OF BEHAVIOUR ... EVER ... IT IS TOTALLY UNACCEPTABLE & HONESTLY THE SOONER IT IS FULLY RECOGNISED THAT THE VICTIM NEEDS THE LAWS FULL SUPPORT NO MATTER WHAT AGE ...... STOP PUSHING IT UNDER THE CARPET, STOP HELPING THE CRIMINALS , START MAKING MORE SEVERE PUNISHMENTS & STICK TO THEM AT ALL COSTS NO IFS & BUTS .... THE VICTIMS NEED TO BE LISTENED TO NO MATTER WHAT AGE & THEY NEED THE FULL SUPPORT OF SOCIETY .... WHO CARES IF THE INSTIGATOR IS UPPER OR LOWER CLASS, HIGHER IN SOCIETY OR BELOW, THE POPE OR IN THE MOVIES .. AT THE END OF IT ALL ... SEXUAL ASSAULT IS WRONG & SHOULD BE PUNISHED AT ALL COSTS & IF IT RESULTS IN DEATH OF THE VICTIM THEN THE INSTIGATOR SHOULD HAVE THE SAME FATE ....

    Posted by Granny leadfoot on 15 Oct 2017

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    Granny leadfoot

    ALSO to add to my reply ... RELIGION & CULTURE SHOULD NOT BE AN EXCUSE FOR THIS DISGUSTING BEHAVIOUR EITHER ... NO ONE EVER HAS THE RIGHT TO DO THIS TO ANOTHER WOMAN, CHILD (ESPECIALLY NOT KIDS) MAN or even an Animal FOR THEIR OWN DISGUSTING PATHETIC EXCUSES ... THE LAW MUST BE OBEYED FOR THIS AT ALL COSTS OTHERWISE WE WILL NEVER ERADICATE THIS EVIL .... OUR KIDS NEED TO BE PROTECTED AT ALL TIMES ....

    Posted by Granny leadfoot on 15 Oct 2017

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    shrott

    Sexual harassment is totally unacceptable in any form, in 70 years I have never lowered myself to such a degrading act...Such a crime warrants severe punishment as an educational deterrent.

    Posted by shrott on 15 Oct 2017

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    Cheryl

    This whole issue is not an easy one to resolve. I think that the way we manage sexual harassment requires a long term approach. Firstly, I strongly support criminal action against those who commit sexual abuse, irrespective of gender, age or ethnicity. That being said, I think that the issue of sexual harassment is often more difficult to define, as our definition (as a society) has evolved over time. Remember, it’s not so long ago that women were legitimately considered to be chattels, ‘belonging’ first to their fathers and then to their husbands (after marriage). That ‘nice’ girls didn’t ... Take a look at commercials run in the 1960s! What was perfectly acceptable then, is now considered so sexist and derogatory that (in some cases) the ads are positively funny! While society’s attitudes have changed, those who grew up in earlier times may not have kept up with those changes, and may not comprehend the significance of their actions/behaviours. Changing those attitudes is problematic. But, Eventually, they’ll die out, and young men and women with more appropriate behaviours will replace them. I also think that the issues linked to victims reporting abuse and harassment will also decline, as society’s attitudes continue to evolve.

    Posted by Cheryl on 14 Oct 2017

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    kwilena

    A fundamental principle in all sexual activity is I cannot and must not lay a finger on another person unless I have their unqualified permission.

    Posted by kwilena on 14 Oct 2017

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    Jannette

    Is been famous mean your in the right,does it mean it all happened just cause you have a title. Lastly I would say famous or just ordinary I would not want my abuse splashed all over the media for everyone to pass judgement on me. Yes one should speak up,yes it sound so easy to those that have never been in that place of utter fear. No movie can fix it or protect you.

    Posted by Jannette on 14 Oct 2017

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    vegandelight

    Investigate each & every case thoroughly & independently. All deserve a fair trial. Do you want to hear a possible solution that has already been presented? Enrol all children from age 10 or thereabouts, in Ballroom dance classes. The reasons why have already been detailed in the film called Take The Lead. The final word doesn't refer to a heavy elemental metal that is associated with bullets, but rather, leadership & what it really means & who really benefits. It was explained much better than I can here, that young men will learn how to treat, hold & respect a lady in a very easily understood physical sense. This daily or weekly experience will normally carry through into their daily lives. Young women will learn how they ought to be treated & not to tolerate nor associate themselves with anything much less than this. All will develop a sense of self-worth. Society in general will benefit enormously & family life will improve also. Such people will focus on developing themselves & their abilities instead of scheming how to manipulate the system to their financial or other advantage as well as manipulate members of the opposite gender. Many a good career can be made from many aspects of dance, which is a very healthy & worthwhile activity as part of our daily lives. I speak also from my own experience as one who chose (nothing to do with my parents nor their money, etc) to sign up to expensive lessons nearly 20 years ago & under instruction from many an awe-inspiring personal coach, recently ranked very high in both State & National Competitions, with a string of medals, awards & memories.

    Posted by vegandelight on 13 Oct 2017

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    coaster

    In a movie it works wonderfully and yes I know it was based on a true scenario but when I went to dances mens hands wandered during waltzes and other ballroom dances and one had to learn how to deal with them. Most women will have in some form been harassed, abused, ridiculed or made to feel small and insignificant or uncomfortable etc. Education, social awareness, good manners would all help and women must also respect themselves and do not allow their bad behaviour to be ignored or brushed off. There needs to be consequences for bad behaviour , however, not all men should be put into this bracket. There are many men who are well mannered, courteous and respectful of women.

    Posted by coaster on 14 Oct 2017

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    Louisa

    It is essential that men and women talk about this if they exerience it to who ever will listen or to whom ever they feel comfortable talking about it to. I think that sexual harassment is still a lot more out there than we would be ready to believe

    Posted by Louisa on 13 Oct 2017

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    Irene

    I am a victim of both sexual harassment and abuse. I used to get it all the time in one workplace where the only topic that got talked about was sex. Today I can talk about it with no problem but when I was abused there was no help available and everyone, including your own family, bullied you for it. However, men can be abused too. Both genders should be treated equally.

    Posted by Irene on 12 Oct 2017

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    squeekums1

    We need to stop blaming women for how they dressed, like its an invite or asking for it We need to take all claims seriously, even just that brush against your behind in the office or that sexual inuendo "joke" isnt a joke but harassment Its an issue as some men women are still seen as owed, like we should be flattered by advances and we nasty or bad for not wanting it. Then in turn their sons pick up this crap and the cycle continues We need to teach from a young age no means no. We need to teach girls young that if they do have issues they can come forward and be listened too, taken seriously. We need to stop things like oh he teases you cos he likes you, thats bs, thats oking bad behavior that just progresses as the kid ages

    Posted by squeekums1 on 12 Oct 2017

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    Kay

    I think it is a lot easier these days to report people for sexual harassment. When I was young I don't remember it ever being talked about, although I am sure it would have happened time and again. People should speak up now because it is a subject very much in the news and victims would be listened to and action taken.

    Posted by Kay on 12 Oct 2017

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    mysteron347

    I'd like to urge caution, having been the victim of rules instantiated to curb harassment. There were three women at my last place of work who interpreted the company rule that a male should not shout down a female as a licence to rant, because interrupting them amounted to "shouting them down" (and you'd have to shout.) My nemesis appeared to spend her entire day fighting "viruses" which is code for frantically attempting to find where the porn she was convinced abounded on the system was hidden. She also intercepted all emails "for viruses" but actually to report people looking for jobs outside the company. I once referred to her daily backups as her "porn backups" (since she was so convinced that porn pervaded the system) and received a ten-minute screaming session about how what I had said was "Sexual Harassment". Apparently it was "Sexual Harassment" too for me to attempt to use her mouse to point to something on her screen. I eventually resorted to communicating with her as little as possible, and by email (although she was at the next desk). After the last blow-up where she was screaming her head off about how "Everyone in the world" had had a particular problem and "no-one had found a solution" (she wouldn't listen to the fact that Microsoft had published a solution two years before), "management" convened a meeting. She screamed and yelled for an hour and a half, not allowing anything other than her complaints and false allegations to be said. So I was dismissed. After all, the assistant general manager who was judge, jury and executioner for the case was her husband. No - sorry, Well-meaning rules can be abused by those with a mind to do so, as I found out to my cost.

    Posted by mysteron347 on 12 Oct 2017

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    angel

    Firstly, If I was a victim of such act, I will ensure a number of physical evidences. (Such as, footage, witnesses etc). Then I will inform those who I know I can trust, family members, lawyer and police authorities.

    Posted by angel on 11 Oct 2017

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    Nanday

    When I was young, I was sexually harassed by an older man where I worked, always verbal, always when we were alone. No witnesses, no evidence. I never spoke to anyone about it and wouldn't go into his office unless there were other people already in there. Often it comes down to the word of one person vs the other. And in the case of all of Weinstein's victims, there were staff working with him to carry it out, and I'm sure they would have taken Weinstein's side and backed up whatever he said.

    Posted by Nanday on 16 Oct 2017

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    squeekums1

    That isnt always possible Ask me how i know

    Posted by squeekums1 on 12 Oct 2017

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    Triangle

    Inform people immediately and let the person know you have taken action.! We cannot be afraid of consequences that may be threatened against you, enough of us do this, it will perpetrators stop, eventually!!

    Posted by Triangle on 11 Oct 2017

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    coaster

    No they won't stop but at least they have consequences for their actions and maybe just maybe some will get the message and stop.

    Posted by coaster on 14 Oct 2017

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    Yvonne

    I too, as a female, am horrified at the misuse of sexual harrassment laws by other females. Arguing with a work colleague who happens to be female is not sexual harrassment. Sexual harrassment is any unwanted sexual advance, verbal or physical or both. Many employers are so scared of the viciousness of females and so unaware of the real laws that they will dismiss a male employee on wrongful grounds just to avoid problems with the law. I advise all males to make use of the law to protect themselves against vicious compensation seeking females. See a solicitor specialising in industrial relations laws if your employer in any way penalises you for sexual harrassment you are not guilty of. Vicious females; don't waste your time accusing me of being a traitor to my own gender. I am actually being loyal to all the good members of my own gender. I just have a huge respect and love of men too.

    Posted by Yvonne on 12 Oct 2017

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