In light of the recent scandal of American film producer sexually harassing
actresses such as Gwyneth Paltrow and Angelina Jolie, how do you think we as a
society should handle sexual harassment? How can we encourage any victim of
sexual harassment/abuse to speak up? Do you think this is an issue that needs to
be fixed in our society? Let us know below.
Posted by on 11 Oct 2017
It is not always a clear cut situation. Of course blatant sexual harassment
should never be tolerated when the victim whether male or female has never
provoked, led on or sent out ambiguous signals. I have watched young girls
provocatively dressed in what once would have been considered 'underwear',
looking like 'hookers', flirting and even kissing men and not always under the
influence of liquor. They do not always realise or know that their dress,
behaviour, language may be taken as a 'come on' until it is too late. Do they
decide it is sexual harassment if a man responds? Is it OK if they like the look
of the guy? It is indeed a very fine line some of these girls tread. While I in
no way condone rape, violence or sexual harassment in the workplace, home or
wherever, young people should be taught the dangers of playing games,
provocative dress and behaviour.
The not so simple solution is that nobody should be in a private meeting without
a witness/ video of what occurred. That way the perverts can’t lie and get
away with it and also stops unfounded claims of harassment many years down the
track . In a perfect world we all get along and there is no discrimination,
harassment, abuse, wrongdoing or deceit. But we aren’t in a perfect world , so
we need precautions against the wrongs of this world
NO ONE EVER HAS THE RIGHT TO THIS SORT OF BEHAVIOUR ... EVER ... IT IS TOTALLY
UNACCEPTABLE & HONESTLY THE SOONER IT IS FULLY RECOGNISED THAT THE VICTIM NEEDS
THE LAWS FULL SUPPORT NO MATTER WHAT AGE ......
STOP PUSHING IT UNDER THE CARPET, STOP HELPING THE CRIMINALS , START MAKING MORE
SEVERE PUNISHMENTS & STICK TO THEM AT ALL COSTS NO IFS & BUTS ....
THE VICTIMS NEED TO BE LISTENED TO NO MATTER WHAT AGE & THEY NEED THE FULL
SUPPORT OF SOCIETY .... WHO CARES IF THE INSTIGATOR IS UPPER OR LOWER CLASS,
HIGHER IN SOCIETY OR BELOW, THE POPE OR IN THE MOVIES .. AT THE END OF IT ALL
... SEXUAL ASSAULT IS WRONG & SHOULD BE PUNISHED AT ALL COSTS & IF IT RESULTS IN
DEATH OF THE VICTIM THEN THE INSTIGATOR SHOULD HAVE THE SAME FATE ....
ALSO to add to my reply ... RELIGION & CULTURE SHOULD NOT BE AN EXCUSE FOR THIS
DISGUSTING BEHAVIOUR EITHER ... NO ONE EVER HAS THE RIGHT TO DO THIS TO ANOTHER
WOMAN, CHILD (ESPECIALLY NOT KIDS) MAN or even an Animal FOR THEIR OWN
DISGUSTING PATHETIC EXCUSES ... THE LAW MUST BE OBEYED FOR THIS AT ALL COSTS
OTHERWISE WE WILL NEVER ERADICATE THIS EVIL .... OUR KIDS NEED TO BE PROTECTED
AT ALL TIMES ....
This whole issue is not an easy one to resolve. I think that the way we manage
sexual harassment requires a long term approach. Firstly, I strongly support
criminal action against those who commit sexual abuse, irrespective of gender,
age or ethnicity. That being said, I think that the issue of sexual harassment
is often more difficult to define, as our definition (as a society) has evolved
over time. Remember, it’s not so long ago that women were legitimately
considered to be chattels, ‘belonging’ first to their fathers and then to
their husbands (after marriage). That ‘nice’ girls didn’t ... Take a look
at commercials run in the 1960s! What was perfectly acceptable then, is now
considered so sexist and derogatory that (in some cases) the ads are positively
funny! While society’s attitudes have changed, those who grew up in earlier
times may not have kept up with those changes, and may not comprehend the
significance of their actions/behaviours. Changing those attitudes is
problematic. But, Eventually, they’ll die out, and young men and women with
more appropriate behaviours will replace them. I also think that the issues
linked to victims reporting abuse and harassment will also decline, as
society’s attitudes continue to evolve.
Is been famous mean your in the right,does it mean it all happened just cause
you have a title.
Lastly I would say famous or just ordinary I would not want my abuse splashed
all over the media for everyone to pass judgement on me.
Yes one should speak up,yes it sound so easy to those that have never been in
that place of utter fear.
No movie can fix it or protect you.
Investigate each & every case thoroughly & independently. All deserve a fair
trial. Do you want to hear a possible solution that has already been presented?
Enrol all children from age 10 or thereabouts, in Ballroom dance classes. The
reasons why have already been detailed in the film called Take The Lead. The
final word doesn't refer to a heavy elemental metal that is associated with
bullets, but rather, leadership & what it really means & who really benefits. It
was explained much better than I can here, that young men will learn how to
treat, hold & respect a lady in a very easily understood physical sense. This
daily or weekly experience will normally carry through into their daily lives.
Young women will learn how they ought to be treated & not to tolerate nor
associate themselves with anything much less than this. All will develop a sense
of self-worth. Society in general will benefit enormously & family life will
improve also. Such people will focus on developing themselves & their abilities
instead of scheming how to manipulate the system to their financial or other
advantage as well as manipulate members of the opposite gender. Many a good
career can be made from many aspects of dance, which is a very healthy &
worthwhile activity as part of our daily lives. I speak also from my own
experience as one who chose (nothing to do with my parents nor their money, etc)
to sign up to expensive lessons nearly 20 years ago & under instruction from
many an awe-inspiring personal coach, recently ranked very high in both State &
National Competitions, with a string of medals, awards & memories.
In a movie it works wonderfully and yes I know it was based on a true scenario
but when I went to dances mens hands wandered during waltzes and other ballroom
dances and one had to learn how to deal with them. Most women will have in
some form been harassed, abused, ridiculed or made to feel small and
insignificant or uncomfortable etc. Education, social awareness, good
manners would all help and women must also respect themselves and do not allow
their bad behaviour to be ignored or brushed off. There needs to be
consequences for bad behaviour , however, not all men should be put into this
bracket. There are many men who are well mannered, courteous and respectful of
It is essential that men and women talk about this if they exerience it to who
ever will listen or to whom ever they feel comfortable talking about it to. I
think that sexual harassment is still a lot more out there than we would be
ready to believe
I am a victim of both sexual harassment and abuse. I used to get it all the time
in one workplace where the only topic that got talked about was sex.
Today I can talk about it with no problem but when I was abused there was no
help available and everyone, including your own family, bullied you for it.
However, men can be abused too. Both genders should be treated equally.
We need to stop blaming women for how they dressed, like its an invite or asking
We need to take all claims seriously, even just that brush against your behind
in the office or that sexual inuendo "joke" isnt a joke but harassment
Its an issue as some men women are still seen as owed, like we should be
flattered by advances and we nasty or bad for not wanting it. Then in turn their
sons pick up this crap and the cycle continues We need to teach from a young
age no means no. We need to teach girls young that if they do have issues they
can come forward and be listened too, taken seriously.
We need to stop things like oh he teases you cos he likes you, thats bs, thats
oking bad behavior that just progresses as the kid ages
I think it is a lot easier these days to report people for sexual harassment.
When I was young I don't remember it ever being talked about, although I am sure
it would have happened time and again. People should speak up now because it is
a subject very much in the news and victims would be listened to and action
I'd like to urge caution, having been the victim of rules instantiated to curb
There were three women at my last place of work who interpreted the company rule
that a male should not shout down a female as a licence to rant, because
interrupting them amounted to "shouting them down" (and you'd have to shout.)
My nemesis appeared to spend her entire day fighting "viruses" which is code for
frantically attempting to find where the porn she was convinced abounded on the
system was hidden. She also intercepted all emails "for viruses" but actually to
report people looking for jobs outside the company.
I once referred to her daily backups as her "porn backups" (since she was so
convinced that porn pervaded the system) and received a ten-minute screaming
session about how what I had said was "Sexual Harassment". Apparently it was
"Sexual Harassment" too for me to attempt to use her mouse to point to something
on her screen.
I eventually resorted to communicating with her as little as possible, and by
email (although she was at the next desk).
After the last blow-up where she was screaming her head off about how "Everyone
in the world" had had a particular problem and "no-one had found a solution"
(she wouldn't listen to the fact that Microsoft had published a solution two
years before), "management" convened a meeting. She screamed and yelled for an
hour and a half, not allowing anything other than her complaints and false
allegations to be said.
So I was dismissed. After all, the assistant general manager who was judge, jury
and executioner for the case was her husband.
No - sorry, Well-meaning rules can be abused by those with a mind to do so, as I
found out to my cost.
Firstly, If I was a victim of such act, I will ensure a number of physical
evidences. (Such as, footage, witnesses etc). Then I will inform those who I
know I can trust, family members, lawyer and police authorities.
When I was young, I was sexually harassed by an older man where I worked, always
verbal, always when we were alone. No witnesses, no evidence. I never spoke to
anyone about it and wouldn't go into his office unless there were other people
already in there. Often it comes down to the word of one person vs the other.
And in the case of all of Weinstein's victims, there were staff working with him
to carry it out, and I'm sure they would have taken Weinstein's side and backed
up whatever he said.
Inform people immediately and let the person know you have taken action.! We
cannot be afraid of consequences that may be threatened against you, enough of
us do this, it will perpetrators stop, eventually!!
I too, as a female, am horrified at the misuse of sexual harrassment laws by
other females. Arguing with a work colleague who happens to be female is not
sexual harrassment. Sexual harrassment is any unwanted sexual advance, verbal
or physical or both. Many employers are so scared of the viciousness of females
and so unaware of the real laws that they will dismiss a male employee on
wrongful grounds just to avoid problems with the law. I advise all males to
make use of the law to protect themselves against vicious compensation seeking
females. See a solicitor specialising in industrial relations laws if your
employer in any way penalises you for sexual harrassment you are not guilty of.
Vicious females; don't waste your time accusing me of being a traitor to my own
gender. I am actually being loyal to all the good members of my own gender. I
just have a huge respect and love of men too.