Women are constantly told that after the age of 35 their chances of having a
baby naturally significantly decreases. However, there are many stories of women
giving birth over the age of 60. But just because you can have a baby in your
50’s and 60’s, should you? Some people believe it’s unfair on
the child since by the time he or she reaches their teenage years they could
potentially have to take on a role of caregiver to their elderly parent. What do
you think LiveTribers? If you could have a baby in your 50’s, would you?
How old is too old to have a baby?
Posted by on 09 Jan 2019
Women should have babies at the age of 25 to 35 because that is the most active
age for example at the age of 25 a woman can do as many jobs as she can but when
they get to late 30s the strenght starts to decrease bit by bit....
So long as you can provide love and all basic needs the child requires for a
healthy upbringing then why does it really matter. So long as the child is
looked after and the family is a secure happy place for the child to grow in I
don't really mind how old the parents are. #letsalljustbehappy
I had my 6th child at 35, even though I was a lot calmer of a mum and coped
quiet easy, it was harder on my daughter by the time she started school, I was a
older mum then most of her peers mums And she noticed that at age 5.
She is 11 now and I’m 46 and she doesn’t mind that I’m older then her
friends mums now. But I still feel young at heart and recently spent fun playing
around racing her up and down a rope climb at the park. So having her at 35
hasn’t been a issue for me, just that my daughter had noticed I was a older
then her friends mums.
Hello all ! I dont know its a really hard topic and sensative topic as you dont
want to take side and you dont want to say what is right and what is wrong
because simply there is no right or wrong answer.
I will give you all an example what would you do in this senario (Situation)
OK so I heard read of a lady had her first baby daughter in her mid 30's. She
was placed on antideprepressants after she had the birth a couple weeks later.
Now she always wanted a big family and children. She was on the medication for 4
years. She took herself off medication of course speaking to the doctor first
she did. So now 40 he wants another. So in this situation she having waited this
long wanting a child is she old to have a child ? My opinion is no I think she
is ok as this is the right time for her and before was not as she was on
medication. I think whenever is the right time to have a baby then its ok. you
hear about a lot of women in their 40s having a child. I personally would have
at any age that I think I could manage and handle.
I speak from personal experience and this is not a judgement call, but if you
haven't had your children by the time you are 30 you should forget it. However,
people these days don't seem to be as bright as people in my day and they seem
to do stupid things with their children, and some are not fit to have children.
My husband was born to a 41 year old mother and hated it as all his siblings
were adults when he was born. Older parents don't cope as well as younger ones.
I wanted a lot of children but my husband said they had to be born while we
were both young so when the last one arrived when I was 30 we said that would be
it. I find babysitting my grandchildren tiring, rewarding but tiring so I can
imagine what it would be like full time, and I don't think it's fair on the
children. My husband and I agreed family first, careers, holidays and life
after, and thankfully we are both healthy enough to have done it all. Having
said that, the brat born to me at 30 says he doesn't want a life like ours,
waiting to enjoy himself, he wants it all now. It is much more enjoyable when
you are free to relax and enjoy it.
I believe it depends entirely on the parents & their economic situation. Do they
own a house? Are they financially independent? Are there already other children?
etc. It is a huge responsibility & not just something to create on a whim.
it is best that you can enjoy the children's younger years as when you get to 50
plus you cannot always be able to look after your young children. you cannot get
as involved as you could the older you get
Interesting comments,my parents were 17 and 21 years old when My sister was
born,then sister number 2 came a year later,the i was born a year after her.Our
Brother came 5 years later.We are all close to Mum and Im very close to my
father .Their marriage lasted 19 years and it was not a easy life but we all
My Father had another 4 girls,they are 37,36,35 and 32.They are all settled and
all close to dad who just turned 77.
I believe its up to the individuals,their own personal securities and desires.
I’m 43 and still no chn as yet..definately a desire to have one..before 50
would be good..l’ve witnessed women who have had babies in their forty’s etc
without no health complications for both mother and baby/s definately doesn’t
concern me health wise..and depends who the individual is as the child and
parents get older..parents who are healthy and active full of life have nothing
to be concerned about the child will be blessed with sensible, mature, fun
I forgot to say my husband was 43 when we had our first daughter. I think some
of the most important things are your physical health, keeping yourself fit and
healthy, being mentally well and also your mental attitude. Some people are very
old at 40 while other people are much more sharp at 80 or 90. As for the
comments about teasing, I have not experienced that yet. My child is almost 4.
My mother had me at 22 and then 3 other children by the age of 30. I do remember
being embarrassed of my mother at school in the mornings because she was always
dressed in her dressing gown and she was overweight. As an older mum, I have
plenty of time to spend with my child. We play inside and outside. I have a very
close relationship with my daughter. Everybody should have a child when it is
the right time for them (they are in a stable relationship, they have got a job
and finished their education). You can have a child before all these things are
done, but it will be harder in the long term. I walked regularly when I was
pregnant, ate well and went to the gym up to 3 weeks before the baby was born. I
had my child naturally with no pain relief. My daughter says that we are cool,
good and fun parents.
im 46 my baby is 2.5 and I run rings around most 21 year olds im fitter and
healthier than majority of younger people I know.. I believe that my 2.5 keeps
me young keeps me active and keeps me healthy . Don't you think women who have
babies in there later years consider all the possible outcomes as in declining
health , capability and responsibility . Women at later age having bubs often
have had the life done the travelling did the work commitments had the financial
struggle so having a bub from say 35 + often means we have more time more
patients more financial stability we don't lean on the already bursting
childcare system or welfare system and we are often in long term relationships
that have already been tried and tested . I have had 5 children ages 27
,26,24,22,2 and I tell anyone who will listen my 2 year old is getting the
absolute best of me .Thx for reading
I think people start their families at different stages of their life for their
own reasons & individual circumstances. If those people are happy & healthy
enough, it's their business & no one else's. I was 30 when I had my first baby,
had been trying many years prior but it just wasn't natures plan. I now have 4
happy, healthy children.
no 50 -60 is far to old to have a child - they would end up very lonely as
parents would have passed on by the time they got into their twenties - I think
it is just a selfless, thoughtless act to do this to your own child
Well this has been interesting reading.
What a large percentage of self centered selfish brats.
life is life, and you will have children whenever, unless you take the pill or
have an abortion.
Apparently from the comments not many have had a broad education or exposure to
people of different lifestyles..
Pity that selfishness means they will miss out on so much.
I was 15 when my birth mother passed away aged 42. I wanted a large family and
only has three children before my marriage broke down aged 32 I wanted more
children but I decided to foster. I have had my three foster children now 11
years making me 55 when they came to live with me. I received four beautiful
boys of the age of 3 mths, four, six and 10 birth mum who was in her early 20s
gave birth to another boy four years later with severe disabilities which I was
u able to take them less than 12 months later mum gave birth to a girl who
came home with me when she was two days old she is now 7 and I am 66 I would
never change my life the children give me so much more than I could ever give
them the eldest is now out of care the next boy has decided to go back to his
parents I am so happy with my additional family although I never gave birth to
them they are mine in every sense of the word I now have three beautiful reasons
to live for.
If a teenager has problems with caring with an elderly person, they must
acknowledge that the would not be in this world if it didn't happen. My wife and
I are in our late 80s. I sold my business 4 years ago so we could follow our
hobbies of buying, renovating and selling houses, so we have no time to have
more babies. We certainly to not need a teenager to look after us. Perhaps i do
not have the necessary experience to comment.
No I would'nt have babies in my 50s or 60s I want to enjoy my children when I'm
young which I did as you never know what's going to happen when you get older
in my case I got cancer 2 times in my 40s at least I could play with my children
when I was young I wouldn't been able if I left having children when I got older
so up to 35 is ok to me
I am looking after my 92 year old mother. I can just imagine what it would be
like if she had me in her 40's or 50's. I would be in the middle of my life with
all it's complications, and could even possibly have a baby to care for as well.
It gives you something to think about.
Never became pregnant until I was 34 then at 38 then again at 41 almost 42. And
never regretted a thing. I am grateful and full of love for these wonderful
gifts. I was fit and healthy and still am thankfully
my mother was mid 30s when I was born. That was due to WW2 separating my
brother and myself by 9.5yrs. I found my mother tried to be more involved but
because of age she was unable to do the things little kids like to do in the
yard. Older parents cause embarrassment for children when introducing friends -
that your grandfather? IVF has seen over 40s and the trauma post natally can
be something else. Baby joy is not such a baby joy. Best age is 15yrs. Old
maternally physical at 25yo.
If a woman conceives through IVF after eg menopase or after about 40 I do not
think it a good idea. Mother Nature does things for a reason and in this case
it's because it is too much strain on the woman's body or she has underlying
health issues that will affect the pregnancy or baby ... or she's at an age
where she won't have the energy to deal with looking after a baby, toddler or
teenager. Most kids think their parents are old, can you imagine a kid with a
parent that is the age of most another kids' grandparent? Just because modern
medicine can achieve something, it doesn't mean it's a good idea. Remember
Darwin's Theory of Evolution?
I had my first child at 41 and my second at 43. No IVF involved. My boys are
now 17 and 15 and no problems. I was married at 24 for 17 years and for 14
years in that marriage we tried and tried and it just didn't happen for us. It
eventually led to divorce after all the pressure and my husband did take off
with another woman with two young children. I eventually met someone else and
fell pregnant within months. Children fill a void that's missing. I did not
feel I was too old to have children but really didn't think I ever would after
trying for so long. 40 is not too old to have children but at 50, you really
do start to wind down and the last thing you want to do is jump on a trampoline.
I really enjoyed reading your comment. I think so many people get scared to have
children in 40's from all the reading online that how the baby would turn out.
Is there special test that you did having a child at 41 and 43 ? I read there
are certain test that they do if pregnant 40 and over.
Firstly with respect, Darwind THEORY of Eveolution has been proven by scientist
to be just what it said THEORY and not fact..
As to the rest, that is factual, if you are meant to have a bably you will
have one naturally,, I have seen too many people spend a fortune on IVF and
then end up in the drink...
best to leave mother nature alone.
45 years would be the limit, I think.Any older and children may have to look
after ageing parents. And it is quite embarrassing for the child to have
Parents attend e.g their graduation , being the age of grandparents. There comes
an age where wanting to be a parent is a selfish wish.
As a Grandparent, I loved being involved in my grandchildren's lives and they
actively involved both grandparents in their school and sport and other things.
I have been mistaken for the parent of my grandchildren, at different places.
The 26-year-old loves it when he hears it and makes a point of coming to me and
addressing me as Grandma. Some people think he is being rude, then we laugh.
It's good fun, we think!
Never too old if you can conceive naturally, as for IVF I don't believe in it
myself because people need to realize that if you are unhealthy you maybe should
not have a child, if you are healthy you will conceive naturally. As for IVF
after menopause, I don't think it is wise to go against nature. I had my son
when I was 39 and have had no issues whatever except most of my friends at the
time already had grown up kids or were not interested, so I had to find new
friends which most were younger and it expanded my outlook on life and I felt
younger myself. It inspired me to give up all vices, get myself fit and
healthier and still does today. I have a great relationships with my son now he
is a teenager and we go hiking and bike riding, I am actually fitter than him!.
Also being an older mum I never missed my social life or anything else which I
had already done. But bottom line is it depends on each person whether having
children late in life is good or not. Many younger parents party too much or
push their kids aside to fulfill their interests but then other younger ones are
I totally agree the unwanted preg rate in younger people is huge same with
accidental preg due to no contraception mature women who have a baby late in
life I do not know the percentage but im sure its not accidentally but more a
choice and thought has gone into it
You need to think carefully about whether you will still be around to support
your child through until at least their 20's. It is bad enough losing your
parents in later life without losing them when you are young.
Yes there is much joy in being a parent but to become one for purely selfish
reasons can end badly for the child.
No because at 46 when the child is school age you are 51 or 2 and other children
will tease or call the Mum Grandma and this causes stress to the child. Also if
you are still working as u get older it's much harder to do both. I am the voice
Wow there are some rubbish comments here. My mother was 43 when i was born. My
father was 62. Autism? To much acid in your younger or ice these days.
Seriously, you can do whatever you want in a free world. As long as you are all
happy. If you can do it, well do it. And if it feels good, do it.
I think that you should not have any babies after the age of 45 it is not fair
to the child as he or she gets older. Up to 45 years old is okay to have a child
if you are
healthy like my Mom and her son who is 1 1/2 years younger than my son and
6 months than my daughter. All three children grew up together.
I would say 45 or to be exact 40-45. Depending on gender make up the risks of a
new born child suffering from an abnormality are greater at a later age and the
consequences of greater needs of care can be devastating to some families.
I think 40 is the maximum age. Considering how times change so fast now, are you
going to be able to cope with the sports, the study, the social expectations,
your own health?
However, there is always the exception to the rule. Some people may manage, but
their children are not going to have the same relationship with the grandparents
or their parents as a child with younger parents.
Many 'stars' have twins and older ones have late children, like Anthony Quinn. I
suspect IVF. I think IVF should be banned.
Don't agree that IVF should be banned. Some women and men have physical
problems and they would love to have a child or two. Most are financially
secure and can give a child a great life. Compare this to a young 18 year old
for instance who is on drugs and unemployment or a single mothers pension. Who
has the most right to have a child.
I'm male so it's probably not my place, but they never say a man is too old.
Anthony Quinn fatheted a child in his 80s and he was praised for maintaining his
virility. The double standards are staggering.
Absolutely! A few years ago a man in his 90s married a woman in her 40s and to
their amazement, they had a son. Young Oscar was 6 when his Dad, a farmer, died.
It seems that the little boy was his father's shadow on the farm and for 6 years
didn't miss out on love and care in any way.
My parents were both in the army during the second world war. They married in
the middle of the war,1943. My mother had three children who did not survive,
they would have done now but prem babies were a whole different ball game then.
I was my parents first surviving child, born when my mother was39, my sister was
born 18 months later. We never experienced teasing or embarrassment because of
our grey-haired parents.
Our Dad was much more engaged and fun than our friend's parents. In fact, our
friends were jealous that we had such a "funny" father and wished that their
Dads were just like him. Mum was always there and always interested in us and
our friends. The aging parents thing never came up because mum died at the age
of 63, when I was 23 and dad died at 72 when I was 34. Again, they died of
things which would not be an issue today. You do not know how things will turn
out but I have to say, we had great parents.
Autism is Proven to be from vaccines & has nothing to do with the age of the
parents. Prior to 'autism', there were many, many normal kids born to parents
vastly differing in age. I know because I grew up with some.
You are right vegandelight, but most people don't believe that vaccines are such
a tragic, debilitating, unnecessary, unproven and evil, full of toxic chemicals
that you would not feed a baby so why inject it?
You don't get Autism from vaccinations and has never been proven. Wrong info
like this is why misinformed parents don't get their kids vaccination which is
totally irresponsible. Autism doesn't discriminate against vaccinated kids, age
of parents. Normally comes from a gene defect in the parents. Like
Aspergers..comes from the fathers side. People need to be educated more about
there has been no credible research that has linked autism with any vaccines.
Reading DSMs III, IV and V, the diagnosis of conditions such as autism have
changed their criteria over the past three decades.
ToWin4Me.... the many links between Autism & vax has been proven year after
year by independent researchers & verified by testing vax samples given, which
are easily traceable. Of course Big Pharma have funded their own studies to
disprove these findings, but they have been successfully rebutted by a growing
number of Medical Professionals. Currently, due to Big Pharma imposing a
liability limit of $1000 a patient, the victims are being 'compensated' by the
Federal Govt or are on a waiting list for this. Of course Big Pharma don't want
their multi-billion dollar income stream interrupted, so they are doing
everything to suppress & 'manage' the situation, from Govt Lobbying to Media
Pressure to killing off the victims or otherwise silencing them. For loving
parents who bother to research what those pricks jam into their kids bloodstream
directly, bypassing the immune system totally, and reject the myth of 'herd
mentality' is not 'misinformed' as you said, but is the exact opposite!
Individuals, not doctors nor The State have sovereign rights over their own
bodies! At the heart of the Western Medical Profession for centuries has been
"informed consent", which is clearly replaced by cajoling, bullying, shaming &
Force today. Stop blaming things that Big Pharma caused (to keep you sick your
whole life whilst being fed their quack remedies to ease your symptoms) on the
parents, genes or the child - history has repeated itself there (they just keep
on repeating every time what has worked for them before!). Reading further,
history shows (the Real history), that vaccines never ever fixed anything at all
& rising Living Standards, improved sanitation, public works, etc, etc did more
to eliminate every disease known to man faster than anything Big Pharma ever
gave us. Informed Consent. Remember that no doctor has any right to force their
treatments on you nor your children ever. Mark my words, in my lifetime there
will be a Royal Commission upon the Medical Profession that will break it down
so much that it will never rear its ugly head again.
you might like to do some research before having an opinion.. also try reading
the flyers that come with the so called vaccines and see what is in them..
Just a question seeing you are you educated... why do newborns and then at 4
months need hep a & b ?????
I know you are the one that is misinformaed.... Dont know where you live, but
the Australian and other countries have the information on their gov
And I wouldnt be going any where near what they call vaccines to day because
vaccinnes is a lie. AND PROVEN OVER AND OVER AND OVER, but some people still
live where the sun dont shine...
One of the issues is finance & access to all the help & money required that
younger people seem not to have as much of as when they're older. Reliable
networks of friends & helpers are very important. Younger people sacrifice their
careers for their families. Government help at all levels is next to useless, as
it has become totally conditional - 'do as we say or you get nothing but abuse'.
I'm pro-population. There's nothing wrong with older, experienced & wiser people
raising children & there are many benefits to be had from this. It'd be good to
see teens caring for the elderly & it's not just a 'one way street' as you seem
I had my first child at 37. My child was healthy and well. I was generally very
well during pregnancy. It depends on the individual and their circumstances. You
can try having a child up to your mid 40s, although IVF success rate is very
low. It is more successful with younger people. Our child was naturally
conceived. If people in their fifties and sixties want to have children, they
should foster a child. There are many children that need fostering, who need
attention and love.
I wish it was as easy to foster and/or adopt as it is to say 'just go adopt
one'. You have to fill in soooo much paperwork, jump through soo many hoops and
pay soo much money and then there is STILL no guarantee. Yes there are many
many children out there needing permanent homes, but the legal process in this
country makes it so very difficult to give them one.
Have you tried the foster care process? We have. After months of expensive
'training' & 'education', we were booted out by the state. People should have
more freedom of choice, not have family planning intervention by the Nanny
State. Even if older people did have a caregiver agenda for their kids, is that
so bad? I had several jobs side-by-side with my education - mostly unpaid or
massively under-paid. If family were the care-givers, like we see in many other
developing countries, it'd take a big burden off the economy & give teens
skills, experience & responsibility, including a better set of family values.